A series of essays.....
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| ~~TAKE REFUGE IN THE COZINESS OF THE 'STARRY NIGHT'~~ | 
.....as seen through my eyes!
By: Jacqueline E. Hughes
Look up to the night sky tonight and you will clearly 
see another bright star shining down upon us.These stars are very special, you 
understand, because they represent the Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Wives, Aunts, and 
members of the Sisterhood who have left our earthly company, with many having 
departed far too soon! 
Take refuge in the coziness of the night sky, my 
Sister!
Nestle in amongst the brave who have flown before 
you,
For, your time is now.
Certainly, God created the stars above to offer all of 
us hope; to shower those left behind in the brilliance of star beams and 
majestic twinkles so that we will never have to feel alone. 
Women comprise the earthly community of caregivers who, 
like an unrelenting firestorm, swiftly sweep through their domain rarely 
swerving in their determination to do what is best for everyone around them. 
They are mother to their own offspring, nourishing and protecting, while 
extending these magnanimous gifts to all children and anyone in need of a 
generous spirit or a masterful portion of dignity of the soul. This combination 
of qualities enables a woman to handle trouble with firmness (protect), disdain 
injustice, and be loyal and trustworthy under all circumstances.
Remain vigilant and firm in the hereafter, dear 
Sister!
Believe that your roots continue to grow strong and 
sound and that
Memory serves the soul of those left behind.
This is why those of us left here on Earth without you, 
Mother, mistrust our own emotions, doubt ourselves, and challenge the ability to 
cope with your loss. 
Heartbreak is having a Mother leave too 
soon.....sixty-two years of age....with so many young grandchildren left to 
wonder and ask the adults, "Why?" Answers forthcoming. And I, being her only 
daughter, her proud new friend, was filtering grief under a starlit Chicago sky 
while holding the hands of my own two young daughters; husband cautiously 
engaged in support and love. Really....what is the 'perfect' combination of 
words you might offer someone who has just lost a parent, her Mother, confidant, 
friend? A veneer of 'protective numbness' encased my being on that long, somber 
drive back to Michigan that night....under those same brilliant stars that 
showered their heavenly light, guiding us along that stretch of the I-94 highway.
Oh, night sky starred with bright earthly 
flowers,
I transfix on one special bloom, larger and brighter 
than the rest.
And bask in its light as it shines down upon 
me.
This past Sunday morning, a bold, new star dances above 
us, navigating the heavens, and shining her light upon the earthbound loved ones 
who look up to the night sky in search of the right answers, not only for their 
children, but for themselves, as well. 
This past Sunday morning, Lucille, Mother to our 
son-in-law, Eric, lost her battle with pancreatic cancer. 
Generous of spirit, extremely liberal when bestowing 
gifts, laughter, and love upon everyone around her, Lucille, wife of Alan, 
Mother of Adam and Eric, daughters-in-law, Melissa and Alexandria, and 
Grandmother to four talented, young spirits, Sarah, Amanda, Brenna, and 
Gavin.....you have left all of us way too soon!
Derived from Latin and French ("Loo-Sill") with an 
English pronunciation of "Loo-Seel," your name makes me think of a young girl, with thick, golden hair in long plaits resting down her back, running joyfully through a field of sweet 
grasses and wildflowers! It reminds me of fun and laughter on a Saturday morning 
watching "I Love Lucy" reruns and repeating the risibility of its contents over 
and over for her devoted fans to enjoy.
Lucille....not Lou or Lulu, Lucy, Lucie, Cici, or Luce. 
At least I have never heard you labeled by any of these nicknames throughout our 
time together. The strength of 'Lucille' always seemed to fit you 
best! 
The significance of your name was a special and pleasant 
surprise for me when I discovered that the name, Lucille, means Light: 
Moonlight, bright light, a state of awareness and understanding, spiritual 
knowledge and illumination or, 'The Light' in certain doctrine that describes a 
divine presence in each person. 
Looking up into the night sky tonight, another bright 
star will illuminate the heavens next to Olga, Beverly, and so many other Moms 
and caretakers who continue to shine their loving light down upon the children 
they have left here on earth. In this act alone, we will find peace and comfort 
and understanding beneath the star beams and majestic twinkles we so often wish 
upon.
Take refuge in the coziness of the night sky, my 
Sister!
Nestle in amongst the brave who have flown before 
you,
For, your time is now and forever!
In Loving Memory of Lucille Miller Siskind.
Copyright © 2016 by Jacqueline E. Hughes
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